Why do we need compassion?
Because life can be incredibly complex and challenging at times leaving us feeling out of control, uncertain or overwhelmed.
Living in the here and now with a more mindful approach to experiencing life with a calmer mind and compassionate focus towards our self and others will alleviate distress and tricky situations.
“We can balance our emotions more effectively, shifting away from feeling out of control or overwhelmed”
A clearer picture of how we balance our emotions
Understanding the three-system emotion regulation model gives us a clearer picture of how we can balance our emotions more effectively, shifting away from feeling out of control or overwhelmed which could bring us anxiety, stress, pain or suffering.
We can step back, pause, breathe, process and reflect.
It is not our fault what genes we were given, how our early life experiences evolved. If we feel limited by inner resources we have developed from learnt behaviours developed through family generations, however with our creative and curious new brains we can take responsibility for how we act now, how we choose to continue to develop and grow as our adult selves.
TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
The Three Stage Model
Impacts our responses
When we look at what is happening in our lives right now there is so much pain and suffering occurring. This can impact on our own mental health and capacity to be resilient from all we are observing, hearing or experiencing. The consequences of this can be the difficulties in maintaining healthy responses in our behaviours, communication and interactions internally and towards others.
Developing a compassionate mind requires a focus on wisdom, understanding that evolution has built our human bodies with the capacity to feel physical pain and our minds have signals wired to look out for potential dangers. Therefore, this evolution of processing and feeling has left us experiencing ‘tricky brains.’ Compassion is recognising the pain and suffering within yourself and or others and the desire of take steps to alleviate the suffering.
Threat is felt in our body
What we can do to alleviate the pain and suffering is to take responsibility of making healthy choices for ourselves now?
The more orient our attention is to continuing feeling compassion for others, our self and from others the safer we will feel within our soothing system where we experience caring, kindness, calmness and safety. Our gentle internal dialogue of how we talk to ourselves is also paramount.
The next steps
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